Isn't it time to treat our children with respect?

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I understand that this concept is an extremely mentally and emotionally challenging thing to face. For 4 to 5 generations Santa Claus has been ingrained and embedded into our society. He has been associated with creating a “magical” Christmas for our children. Many of us have photos sitting on his lap, we have memories of baking cookies and leaving them out for him, we have many classic movies that embrace him.  So I can completely understand how difficult it will be for many to let him retire.

But this tradition, along with the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy are truly where it all goes wrong. Children learn by example and as parents we are exemplifying being dishonest and deceitful people and to what end? To have our 7ish year old child have their innocence stripped from them facing the brutal truth that they are living in a “world full of liars?” Facing the brutal truth that there is no “magical world?” This is absolutely devastating to a child! The world would become just dull and dreary and depressing after this horrific realization. Our childlike wonder of the world and fascination with this amazing world we are living in is being destroyed at 7 years old. We are quite literally creating our own “hell on earth.”

There is nothing magical about lying to our innocent children about Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. It is disrespectful, mentally and emotionally abusive, traumatizing, harms their self-esteem and stifles their imaginations. Let me explain  each of these detrimental affects on our children in detail. And if you think this did not affect you? How could you possibly know, you have never known anything else.

It is disrespectful

We are disrespecting our children’s intelligence for the first years of their lives. Does anyone enjoy having their head messed with? We are doing this for the first 7 years of their lives and we are conspiring as a society to insult their intelligence. They are just brand new to this world and learning about it, they are being force-fed this nonsense throughout their childhoods. Wouldn’t it be much more respectful to be honest with them and point out all the incredible beauty in this world? Teaching them to respect all the incredible wildlife, sea creatures, plants and flowers? Teaching them to be in awe of our oceans, mountains and rivers? This is an absolutely amazing world! What are we doing? We are convincing them that it sucks by the time they are 7 years old! I was honest with my daughters and my oldest came up to me when she was around 5 years old and said to me, “mommy, you must be delusional because everyone else is telling me he is real!” This is the biggest conspiracy on the planet. My daughter does not trust her own mother because the rest of this psycho society is lying to her! We have lost our minds as a society! And yes, I’m angry about it. It takes a village and our “village” has lost its mind!

It is mentally and emotionally abusive

Do you enjoy having your head messed with? Especially for 7 years straight by the people you love and trust the most? The only reason these traditions have continued for generations is because the people we love and trust the most taught us that this is what we should be doing. This nonsense started as the result of a Coca-Cola commercial from the 1930s and I’d really like to know what evil billionaire was behind it. If you can’t trust your own parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, older siblings, who can you trust? It prevents you from being truly vulnerable with anyone for the rest of your life. They are going to make a total fool out of you! Our entire society is being given trust issues because of this nonsense. They are not learning to be kind, caring, compassionate people. They are not learning to be honest. They are being raised by cartoon characters!

It is traumatizing

You attain your belief system by the time you are around 7 years old and the “belief system” everyone is getting is, “don’t trust anyone!” Especially not the people you care most about. This will remain in your subconscious mind for a lifetime and follow you around in all of the relationships you have. It will drive your choices and actions. We are being taught we are in “a world full of liars.” If you think you were not traumatized by this, you likely were so traumatized, you blocked it out. It is absolutely horrifying to face the brutal truth that all these people you loved and trusted blatantly and purposely misled you to believe in nonsense. Nobody is learning anything! Shouldn’t we be teaching our children to be honest and respectful of everyone? Everybody is walking around screaming about corruption and pointing their fingers at everyone else but failing to point the finger at themselves! It is time to start pointing the finger at ourselves and asking, how am I contributing to this mess of a world? Am I being honest? Am I being kind? Am I being understanding? Am I being considerate? Am I being forgiving?The buck needs to stop with everyone individually. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Stop being a “pinball in a pinball machine!” Take responsibility for your own behavior and exemplify the person you want our children to become.

It harms your self-esteem

It is a huge blow to a child’s self-esteem when they face the truth. They are thinking, “how could I have been so dumb? How could I have fallen for that? I must be incredibly stupid!” So, this is also the “belief system” we are giving our children right out of the gate! We are sending them a clear message that they are pretty stupid to have fallen for this. Why are we doing this? Who does it benefit? It certainly does not benefit our children. Who is benefiting from our children never learning respect, honesty, kindness and gratitude? Who is benefiting from them focusing on money and monetary things and gifts instead of each other? Their guard will be up in all relationships henceforth! They will be subconsciously thinking, “this person is going to make a total fool out of me if I trust them just like everybody else did when I was a vulnerable child!” This harms less fortunate kids even worse because, in addition, they are feeling they are not worthy of receiving all these gifts that other kids receive. The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer and it is a direct correlation to self-esteem, believing in yourself, trusting yourself and having the confidence to achieve your highest and best. I can’t even imagine what an incredibly beautiful amazing world we would be living in if most of the planet was not destroying their children’s self-esteem by the time they are 7 years old.  

It stifles their imagination

Our children are spending the first years of their lives trying to figure out if all these adults are messing with their heads and conspiring against them. How do they have any time to cultivate their own imaginations and creativity? We are oppressing the amazing talents of so many of our beautiful children. There is absolutely nothing about lying to them about nonsense that supports an open-minded free-thinking child to achieve their highest potential. It is time to let Santa Claus and these other characters who jumped in to mess with our children’s heads to retire! The only reason most everyone “loves” Santa Claus is because he is associated with receiving gifts. People love receiving gifts so it is truly a brainwashing tactic to associate this Santa Claus character with receiving gifts. You might as well say, “I love receiving gifts” instead of “I love Santa Claus.” What do we need him for? We can make our own magic without this frightening character breaking into our homes and demanding our parents be deceitful and dishonest to their own children. We can still have Christmas trees, exchange gifts, bake cookies and all the rest without this horrific character destroying our world. We can lift our children up, cultivate their imaginations, keep their minds open and free-thinking providing them a safe environment with trustworthy people raising them.  

These traditions have been demoralizing our society for 4 to 5 generations and it will just continue to get worse and worse and worse if we do not stop it. We have school shootings now, pre-teen sex changes, sexual identity crises and the lies about this nonsense just keep getting bigger and bigger and bigger! We need to feed them lies when they ask about how he gets in the house without a chimney, we need to feed them lies as to how he knows which house to go to, mommy or daddy’s? We need to feed them lies when they ask why did the other kid get many more gifts than me even though he’s a bully? The list goes on!  

What are we doing? We have truly lost our minds as a society! It is time to wake up to reality and start creating a better world and taking responsibility for it individually instead of blaming everyone else. The good news? This is true freedom! True freedom and high self-esteem and happiness is found in taking responsibility for yourself. This is how to build your self-esteem and feel great about yourself! Start asking yourself… Am I being honest? Am I being kind? Am I being uplifting or oppressing people? Am I focused on money or am I focused on building healthy relationships? We have been trained as children that happiness comes from making a lot of money and buying a lot of stuff. Of course money is nice but when it becomes our primary focus instead of each other, that’s where it all goes wrong. People are lonelier than ever. Why? People have never learned how to respect each other. They never learned to listen, to care and to understand. We are living in a society with alcoholism, drug addiction, suicides, mass shootings! Why? Nobody is learning to listen, care and understand. Empathy is the ultimate goal to peace on earth and of course if nobody is trusting a damn word that is coming out of each other’s mouths, how are they supposed to empathize with someone? So the first step is honesty and a good place to start is with our children. They are, after all, our future!

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